A person in my family will not entertain any conversation about Donald Trump and they have made it clear how they despise even the mention of his name. They, “Can’t stand him.”
This person has not observed any good in Trump. They have not conceded that he has done good for America on any level. Their mind is completely closed.
There is no point in talking to someone of this persuasion as they are not open to any possible insights. We continue to love one another, and do not allow this to cause dissension in our family. We simply don’t go there. There are plenty of other things to talk about.
In other words, we show mutual respect for difference of opinion. Although they know others don’t see things their way, they too are tolerant of differences, if not of discussion.
Mask wearing is another area where our family members’ opinions differ. There is a little more tolerance for discussion with these members so we have talked about the subject. But, once again, there is a line we don’t want to cross. We don’t want to allow a difference of viewpoint to destroy our relationship, so we let the subject drop before it does that. We stop trying to persuade.
Trump is not all bad. He has made some positive changes in America. Masks provide some protection, depending on the material and construction. A challenging exercise is trying to hold two opposing views at the same time, balancing them against each other.
Another topic of dissension is religion. Religion is not all bad. Jewish law teaches us not to lie, steal, kill and commit adultery. Christ taught us what is considered as the Golden Rule, to love our neighbours as ourselves. Members of our family are not accepting of the religion of others, but they still continue to love one another.
When we love others we give them a lot of room. We have to allow them to make mistakes, to be wrong. We might try to help them, but even with good intentions, we will not always do the right thing. It takes humility to admit this.
Love genuinely wants the best for the other person. Unfortunately, there are a few among us who care little about others, but even in these cases, we must be careful not to jump to conclusions. I recently came across this, “Do not assume malice when ignorance could explain the situation.”
Some people shut you out when your views differ from theirs. You become the detestable “other.” I favor Christianity because it does not leave room for this attitude. In fact, it teaches people to “love your enemies” and to “pray for those who persecute you.”
I had a vision this week. I saw the love of God encompassing the world. I can’t really explain it. It was like giant arms, like a cloud, or a vapor, encompassing the earth. I was in prayer and I asked God if he wasn’t angry with the world and all the evil in it. In the Bible I read that God is often angry with the wicked, so I wanted to know. The vision zoomed in to those individual, private moments when people are most vulnerable and I was impressed with the thought that this is what God sees. This is what he does not forget, even when evil tries to obscure it. He looks beyond. This is who he loves.
We need to be a little more like God, loving beyond those things that annoy us. Loving beyond our differences.
We can allow evil to tear us apart or we can choose to love.
There are evil forces at work seeking to destroy what is precious and what is truly precious is our relationships. We must watch that our views do not become the most important thing. What matters is the other person, their needs, their dreams and desires. We can love, even with differences. But it may take some help from the example of Christ, who laid down his life, rather than persisting against resistance. At this special Christmas season, let’s remember, “For God so loved the world….”
I think the source of tolerance is the family. It is where we learn to care deeply. It is where we learn to be tolerant of differences. It is where we learn it is safe to make mistakes and where we learn to forgive. It is so important to guard these early relationships that will follow us all of our lives.
I loved this! My son and daughter aren’t speaking to each other because they are on polar opposite sides and it breaks my heart. They both are intelligent, research everything, though probably BOTH, lean more on their own party’s media outlets for their information. It’s sad that we can’t all see both sides. My newest motto has been “We’ll see. It is what it is so all we can do is see. I’m not happy at the gas prices because of the new pipeline decision and so we’ll see….
By the way I love that we are Facebook friends! I’ve always felt that we’d be great friends in person too! You have always been someone that I could relate to! I Know if we were neighbors we’d be good friends. But I’ll take virtual as well! 🙂
It would be lovely to meet in person! Maybe one day. I, too, treasure our communication over the years. And I love your cards and crafts. Hopefully you can open shop again soon!
Sorry to hear your son and daughter are not speaking. It is unfortunate that there is such a deep political divide these days. I don’t know the answer, expect to pray. Yes, “We’ll see….” Blessings!
By the way I loved your vision! I am just now reading Joshua and Daniel and really see a huge relation to NOW. But I loved your vision and claim it TOO! What a gift!
Yes, it was an unusual vision that I need to keep in mind during these times. Thanks for reading!